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Osho – The Honeymoon that Never Ends

“Relating means you are always starting, you are continuously trying to become acquainted. Again and again, you are introducing yourself to each other. You are trying to see the many facets of the other’s personality. You are trying to penetrate deeper and deeper into his realm of inner feelings, into the deep recesses of his being. You are trying to unravel a mystery which cannot be unraveled. That is the joy of love: the exploration of consciousness.”

The Honeymoon that Never Ends.

A beautiful discussion on love and relating, by Osho.

Cheers to SuperForester Jeremy!

Heather’s Journal (8/17/2010): On Positivity and Relationships

Why can’t we all be a little bit more like Lloyd Dobler and lay our hearts on the line?

Good Evening SuperForest!

I’ve been thinking lately about positivity and its role in dating relationships. In an age when so much of the dating world is dominated by subversive game-playing and jaded souls burned by past breakups, how can we still remain positive when it comes to our relationships? Don’t you wish people would just be completely up front and honest about their feelings and just take the plunge? Just go for it? Not worry about conventions or rules, gender roles or geographic boundaries?

Usually if someone is quite forward and uninhibited in their actions towards a new beau, this person is seen as eager, crazy or desperate — why is this? We all just want to love and be loved, and I think more of us should start laying it on the line earlier. Having said this, mystery is sexy, but sometimes lines can get crossed, things can get assumed and egos can get bruised.

Recently I met a couple different individuals whom I would  most likely be spending more time with if each of them lived here, although they both live in different cities. On the positive side, in a matter of a month I met two interesting souls who I connected with; realistically we are divided by miles and baggage from previous relationships (or so they both say). I wish I could just take my positivity mallet and break down those walls, creating a realm of possibility for love to grow from one of these connections! However I’m stuck here in limbo, hoping my feelings will subside, we’ll someday live in the same city, or that one of them will open up and accept the possibility of a long distance relationship.

What do you think, SuperForesters? Should distance or emotional baggage hold us back from awesome connections? I don’t think so! Is there room for extreme positivity in dating relationships today or am I being too idealistic?

Yours in Idealistic Love,

SuperForester Heather

Love Poems on a Valentine’s Day Afternoon

valentineHappy Valentines Day, everyone — I say this to you in the hopes that you are celebrating love in any form today, whether you are in a relationship or not. I don’t really celebrate Valentine’s Day but perhaps I should — I’ve often thought of doing something like sending anonymous Valentines to people, or comitting some sort of random act of kindness toward others to keep spreading the love (I like what you did with those reply envelopes, Iman!). A lot of people say they don’t need a holiday to remind them to share feelings with loved ones, but I think sometimes people do need  a reminder to be demonstrative with their affections! Really we should be showing our love every day, right?

Anyhow, I thought I’d share some of the love poems I’ve written over the years, I’ve noticed they are not actually that optimistic, but perhaps you will find something in them to relate to as you ponder love in all its forms on this feast of St. Valentine.

Taiwan Calling

taiwan calling/hopes falling

reality waking/mistakes making

eyes winking/too much thinking

mind denying/plane flying

pride swallowing/heart following

paths diverging/memory purging

 

James and Marilyn on a Halloween Night

Passion through pencils and fingers

Pulsating beats

Blue-eyed boy sings in my ear

Pretending to be dead beauties

Nice meeting you

 

The Musician

 He sits alone

Shoulders hunched over

Guitar in his lap

Hair falling into his eyes

He gingerly places the pick in his mouth

Strong fingers sweep the strands back in place

His head bows

But just as he begins to play

His eyes shoot up and pierce the crowd

The strings vibrate as he plucks them to make music

He starts to sing

Poetry drips from his lips

While anxious college girls sit forward in their seats, mouths agape, waiting for him to notice them

They’ve worn their tight sweaters and shiny lip gloss for him

But he doesn’t notice

 

After re-reading these poems, I realize that they may not convey a sense of positivity, but I want all you Superforesters to know that regardless of any pain or heartache any past relationships cause, I believe that all of the relationships I have had were positive and I am grateful for all of them. Positivity doesn’t always come with a smiley faced exterior, positivity can be an outlook derived from experience. All of the people you meet or are in any sort of relationship with are all examples of positive interaction because they allow you to know someone so much that they add something to your life. By knowing this person, they allow you to learn and grow in yourself, regardless of whether the relationship lasts or not.

 So, be grateful today for all relationships! Go and write your own poems about a past relationship or the one you’re currently in! Poetry can be a great expression of the soul, and it gives you great perspective on love and life.

 Yours in poetry,

Superforester Heather