By Jon Marro
Long has it been since I writ upon ye walls! Well I dare say it is time for this scribe to return for awhile.
The past months have been filled with self discovery and growth, with a touch of community for good measure. I have lost loves and gained wiser and deeper ones. The cycle continues. One of the things I have said to myself is that by ending one relationship I have entered relationship with everyone else, and what a magical journey that has been. The past month and a half I spent bringing the SuperForest Humanifesto to high school students through a job with the National Student Leadership Conference. What a joy it was! The passion of helping other human beings, especially young ones, discover themselves is like nothing else! And what I discovered is that is what I am going to be doing for the rest of my life: helping people discover themselves. More than that I have a vision for making that a reality: a community center(s) that are tangible SuperForests. Much like all of you come to SuperForest to gain a little bit of joy, people will come to their community center to discover, play, and learn. Me and a wonderful human being named Allison are driven to create this center(s); it is our vision. It is more than just workshops and sessions, it is a resource center for community service, music, food, friendship, companionship, and love. Imagine all of the wonderful things you have discovered on SuperForest, except in the tangible world in a full days workshop, a weeks session, or a day or week of community service. The only way for us to begin is to share this vision with as many people as possible, and so we share with you, our family.
“Do you have name yet?” you might ask. Why yes! Star Dust. If any of you follow us on Facebook you will have read the inspiration for this name. Star Dust is the idea that all of us are connected, all of us have originated for the molecules that were created billions of years ago from the Big Bang. The energy in us is the same energy as then; for energy is never create or destroyed, only transferred. The energy in you and Polaris (the North Star) is one of the same. The carbon in you is the same that helped form the earliest of stars. And
if all of you and us has been created by what was created at the beginning of it all, how can we not but view our existence as perfection? And therefore we are all Star Dust. So we hope someday to see you at The Star Dust Community Center!
So that is what I am up to currently, and what fun I am having! Jackson has created Zero One as his tangible SuperForest, Star Dust shall be mine! And we may ask for you help in this endeavor from time to time. For now, just love and support would be grand! Both Allison and I say thankye.
The mission of my life, and Star Dust’s (one in the same), is to help all of us (me) discover the love that we are (I am). Today I was in deep thought while walking back from lunch. The thought process went something along the lines of this: When I judge (positive or negative) another human being, I am choosing to see the things I like or dislike about myself in them. So my judgement is really of myself. Realizing that each judgement I have of someone else is really just my own reflection of how I view myself, I am able to easier understand the gaps I have in loving myself. And also, if this is true for me, it is true for you! So I am freed from the judgements placed on me (positive or negative) because they are simply a reflection of how you view yourself! How freeing!
I then came to the thought if I am to truly love myself I must be able to look at every individual on this planet and love them. Anything I do or don’t like about another person is simply the things I like or don’t like about myself! After all, any judgement I create is out of my own experience, and therefore can only be of myself (I have only experienced living as myself). So when I choose to not love someone else, I am choosing to not love myself. Even if the person is so far from being someone I think I’d be like (say someone who has murdered six people). What is it in that person that is really just a fear I have about myself? In the past I would have said nothing! I would never kill anyone! But now, and upon further reflection, I would say I am afraid of myself losing control, getting lost in the world, and hurting the ones around me. My judgement of someone who has committed murder is simply the fear I have of myself. Does this mean I have to like that person? Not at all, but I have to be aware of my own reflection in them, and if I can understand the fears, I can choose to love them, and thus myself. I can also still hold that person accountable for their actions, but I can choose to love them as a human being. And that is an extreme. What if I chose my dad? Or that guy who lives across from me who is a jerk (so how am I being a jerk?)? Or my past partner? What judgements do I hold that are really only a reflection of my opinions of myself? What if I choose to look at all those judgements (positive and negative) and choose to accept them, and cherish them. I see harshness and apathy in many people (and thus myself), but sometimes harshness and apathy have a place in my life that are effective and loving. I also see empathy and nurturing in many (and thus myself), which can be hugely beneficial to myself and those around me, but can also be hindering to building relationships (overbearing/caring is a part of empathy and nurturing). And for the aspects I want to choose not to live (such as being a jerk), I get the opportunity to seek being loving, caring, open, and understanding. So for me to accept myself for who I am, I must first accept all the reflections of myself presented in those around me. To love myself, I must love you.
I see this often with parents and children. Children are the most apparent reflection to parents of themselves. I often wonder how a parent could yell harshly or poorly treat their children. Then I realized the parents are only treating their children how they treat themselves, and this shows up in the way they interact with their children especially. Abusive parents are abusive because they are abusing themselves, and that shows up in the relationship with their children. Loving parents are loving because they are loving themselves, and that shows up in the relationship with their children. And all of this is in continues motion from moment to moment! How often does a parent come from love in one hour, and a few hours later come from anger? (Woah…more on this later perhaps.)
Does this mean everyone will be best friends or lovers? Not necessarily, but my interactions with you will be out of love. My choice is to accept you in the moment we have together, and therefore accept myself now. And that feels right, that feels empowering, that feels efficient. That feels like a healthy environment to me. That feels like a good shift in my life. All I can ever be is in control of myself, and therefore I choose to love you (me). I ask all of you to hold me to that standard, and support me in that way of being. As John Lennon said, “I am he as you are he as you are me and we are all together.”
Much, much love to you (me), SuperForest!